Sheryl Mays; Don't take the music with you.

Updated: Mar 28

Guest writer for mynzdreamblog

Don’t Take the Music with You!

What happens when you don’t allow your music to play in your life? What happened to us as adults is that we no longer take the time to play, laugh, and enjoy our lives. Now, we wait for vacations and maybe weekends to do what we desire, what we need, and what we enjoy. What if we said no more?

No more waiting for the exact things in life to go our way, no more waiting for the exact person to come into our lives, no more sitting on the sideline watching others enjoy their happiness. NO MORE! Can you imagine how loud our music would play if we had that attitude? What would your perfect day be? If you had the opportunity to do whatever you choose for one day, what would you do?

Recently, I watched a movie called “Yes Day”. It was a great movie in that it reminded us, as adults, what we are missing in life. The movie is about a family with three children, a teenager, both middle, and elementary schoolers. Mom and Dad were always busy with work and it seemed to the kids that mom was always saying “No” and just zapping the fun out of their lives.

I’m sure as a parent you might have heard your children say the worst words any parent can hear. “You’re no fun”. Ouch! Sucker punch! If this were a batman movie, I can see the word POW in bright colors and that exclamatory graphic. I’m sure you know which one I’m referring to. So, there it started, “you’re no fun”. The parents then had to think about when they were younger and they had loads of fun; concerts, movies, all the “don’t tell your parents” things that occurred. And then to hear those words “You’re no fun” makes you wonder what happened to us.

So, as the story continues, a deal is made between the kids and the parents that for one day the parents could only say “YES”. Yes, to all things that eliminated life-threatening activities. They all agreed! Now I won’t tell you all the shenanigans they enjoyed, but I want you to think about what just happened.

What if, as an adult, we allowed ourselves a “Yes Day”? A day (24 hours) to believe we can fulfill our dreams, get that promotion, start that business, go to the beach at noon, clock out early, binge watch a season of your favorite movie, write that book, learn a new language, take a painting class, plant a garden, run through the sprinkler, go to your favorite restaurant, cut your hair, wear a color that you never wore before, take a drive to a local town and act like a tourist. Wow, what other possibilities can you imagine?

I have always been one to believe you work hard; you play hard. Lately, it has been just working hard and I haven’t had the time to play. Do you know what happened? I’m tired, a bit cranky, a little less creative, and I felt like my music was being silenced. Here is my typical day. Let me first say I’m not an early riser, but I am a late finisher. So I get up spend time in my morning ritual, walk the dogs, fix breakfast for my mom, turn on the computer, review my list of activities for the day, check over my calendar of appointments, spend two hours studying, managing clients, completing speaker applications, prospecting, fulfilling my board member/volunteer duties, lunch for my mother, social media, arranging appointments for the two shows, producer meeting, client sessions, writing articles, and now moderating several rooms on clubhouse, dinner, mastermind meeting and finishing with creating a list for next day and then 2 more hours studying. At this time, it’s generally 9 PM.

I believe in a few essentials in life: To be just in my dealings, not slothful in business, and to operate with perfect effort. And I believe in purpose, passion, and peace! That’s why I believe that everything I do is within those essential beliefs.

But what I realized is that I’m now a grandmother. Yes, a 3-month-old little girl named Robin. When they come over most times, I am still working because it’s within that time frame above. And I decided I didn’t want her to say I don’t want to go to Glam ma’s house because she’s always working and here it comes “she’s no fun”. Yes, my chosen reference is “Glam-ma” and she’s my “glam baby”. Now the reality with that is I’ll respond to whatever name she can say. A work in progress. The point is that before I can be fun with her, it must be fun for me.

So, as it stands, our music must be heard and played first for ourselves and then for others. So, give yourself a “YES DAY”! And I’ll leave you with the words of one of my favorite songs by Gloria Gaynor, DANCE.

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder

You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger

May you never take one single breath for granted

God forbid love ever leave you empty handed

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean

Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens

Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

I hope you dance

I hope you dance

Continue to hear your music and don’t let the day come when you are gone, and your music has gone with you. Play it loud and play it now! Today and every day!

Until the next time,

May you speak words of positivity, seek people that are open-minded, show daily gratitude, remain passionate about your desires, stay motivated into action and be an inspiration to others. And may your music always be heard!

Your Friend, Sheryl

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